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Good Touch And Bad Touch: SHE SPECIAL

I have raised my daughter like a princess. I’m well aware of all her requirements whenever she needs. But I know I cannot be everywhere, at every given point in time. As your daughter starts growing up and learns to become independent, she will interact with others in different social settings. Be it at your family celebrations, their school, their hobby classes or their daycare centers, She will meet different people – in your presence or otherwise. And let’s face it, not everyone will mean well. Not everyone will mean to protect and nurture your daughter the way you do. In fact, some may try to cause harm and touch your princess inappropriately. How do you provide her with a security cover that can also help her stand up for herself? How will you teach her to identify and differentiate between these good and bad touches? Even some of us have personal experience – very personal experience – with childhood bad touch abuse. Which makes it harder to discuss about but makes it even more important to be open to share and learn.
Teach your daughter about ownership of her body that no one has right to touch her body and private assets unless she feels ok or parents/ doctor (if needed). Also they have full right to SAY NO if they don’t like when anyone of her fiend holds her hand or hugs/kisses her. Tell your daughter how to act in response to a stranger if :
· He/she touches her between the legs,
· Front/back of the chest
· At the back or tries to kiss on the lips
· And if he/she uses vulgar language and tries to indulge you in vulgar talks.
· If someone winks at. Etc.

Also keep eyes on every activity of your daughter ,like; if she feels chronic and diffuse pain, especially abdominal or pelvic pain, if encounter any type of anxiety and depression, self-neglect, and eating disorders also an attribute to childhood sexual abuse. Even sometime they isolate themselves or react absurdly on asking general things. Be a good counselor and handle carefully. Also react appropriately when child hesitate to disclose her hesitation, abuse or fault. Don’t make them conditioned to think that telling anyone would lead to swift punishment for what they allowed to happen.

Girl child molestation is very commonly discussed in newspaper and TV channels these days. Nearly one in 10 girl child sexually abused in her life time. 91% of the victims of rape and sexual assault are female, and 9% are male. So, now you can easily understand how important it is to unleash the truth of good and bad touch for our child. So, be kind and loving while you treat with your girl as usually they are very sensitive by nature compared to opposite gender.
A good touch can be felt by parents or from someone you feel the love or care. A bad touch activates her anger, hesitation and irritation. Also using appropriate language, taking conversation seriously and making your kid feel very comfortable is very important while discussing on such sensible topic.

By clarifying clear cut terms for “good” and “bad” to what is occurring in the society, you will be defined as a good parent, guardian, teacher or a human being. They are blooming kids, care for them and protect them.

Continue…..
Thank you
Elina Srivastava

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